The grey hair in question:
In the inadvertently selfie-heavy 5 Frugal Points put up yesterday, reader Crystal remaining this remark:
I in particular really like your hair! Pretty! My hair is going gray and I find that individuals are unpleasant with it. I am 50 and I am just weary of coloring my hair. Perhaps you could do a blog site write-up about this?
Aww, I am sorry to hear that other men and women are foisting their gray-hair opinions on you.
I definitely dislike the cultural narrative around growing older, specifically for ladies, and I wrote a reasonably extensive write-up on the full subject matter of growing older.
A good deal of what I wrote in that post is suitable in this article, but I really do not imagine I’ve at any time published a post specially about grey hair.
But 1st, I will need to make one thing clear:
I have combined feelings about my grey hair
Like you, I stay in a culture that is terrified of ageing, and even even though I consider to battle from that, I know the culture affects me and how I imagine.
So, sometimes I really feel bummed out that I am getting much more and extra grey hairs, and I would like for the days when my hair was all brown.
But as I wrote in my write-up about growing older, I never feel I need to have to tension myself to really like my gray hair. A area of acceptance is a quite satisfactory purpose.
I’ve taken almost 46 journeys all around the sunshine, and it is unachievable to do that without encountering some age-relevant transform. Accepting that as fact aids me to truly feel much more tranquil!
Now that we have that out of the way, below are the motives I have not dyed my grays.
1. I really do not like to invest dollars
Home hair dye is reasonably very affordable, but that does continue to incorporate up around time.
But salon dye…that is expensive for sure, and I just am not absolutely sure my frugal coronary heart would want to commit to normal, costly hair salon trips.
2. I am lazy on the beauty front
I know I’ve mentioned it a million moments: it usually takes incredibly little to access my, “Nah, that is much too substantially bother” threshold when it will come to natural beauty.
I commit it’s possible 15 minutes on hair and make-up every single day, excluding the time it takes to shower, and my product or service lineup is super minimum.
Based on this long-standing heritage of behavior, I really don’t imagine I’d want to preserve up with household dye careers or normal salon journeys. That is unquestionably previously mentioned my “too a great deal bother” threshold!
3. I would in all probability be walking all-around with visible roots all the time
Presented the over info, I can gaze into the potential and see that I’m a probable candidate for currently being a human being whose grown-out roots are displaying on the common.
I’d both be way too lazy to hassle with touching up my roots at household, or also low cost to go to the salon to get it completed adequately often.
And honestly, developed-out roots are not a lot more appealing than the current hair predicament I’m in.
I think that certain actuality is what helps me the most!
4. I want to force back again on unfair beauty criteria
Aspect of my refusal to dye my grays is centered on stubbornness. I am irritated that our society sights gentlemen with gray hair as remaining appealing and advanced, but women of all ages with gray hair are considered to be washed up and worn out.
I am irritated that it is deemed to be “brave” to demonstrate your grey hair when you are in your 40s and 50s.
I am irritated that grey hair is deemed to be ordinary only when we access our 70s or 80s, when the reality is that most people start off acquiring grey hairs in their 30s and 40s, and when we’re in our 50s, quite substantially all of us have a whole lot of gray hair.
5. I want to normalize what is really, factually ordinary
The explanation we obtain into the, “Gray hair is for aged people” lie is that we are not applied to viewing persons, women in unique, displaying their grey hair right until they cease dying it.
And that’s generally in their last number of a long time of life.
I feel there is a modest cultural shift heading on correct now, with far more and a lot more girls selecting to cease dying their grays, or to never ever get started in the very first spot.
And I’m a little portion of that. 🙂
The far more we see this, the much more normalized it will grow to be.
6. I am becoming sort to my hair
I know there are strategies to mitigate the harm that dye does to your hair, but almost certainly very little is kinder to your hair than leaving it undyed.
7. I by no means have to navigate the expanding out process
If I do not at any time start off to include my grays, I by no means have to make the significant selection to chop it all off or go by way of the unpleasant increasing-out stage.
I can just let my hair little by little do its detail, and my entire body will choose when I will turn out to be all grey. 🙂
And now I have a few views about the problem of other individuals and their opinions!
1. Get confident in your personal causes not to dye
If you sense solidly content inside of of by yourself about your decision to quit dying, other people’s views will weigh less.
2. Personal the truth that this is your hair
If other folks experience awkward about what you are carrying out with the hair that is on your head, effectively, they genuinely need to have to keep in their have lanes a minimal better.
(And perhaps they want to do some soul-exploring to determine out why someone else’s hair is so significant to them.)
Other folks really do not have to stroll close to with your hair, and they’re not the ones who bear the burden of sustaining repeated coloring, so I just really do not imagine their viewpoints will need to keep a bunch of pounds.
Each individual of us will get to make our own decisions about what we will do with our own bodies, and that contains what we do or do not do with our hair. You are the boss of you!
3. Find some on the net neighborhood that assists normalize what you are carrying out
It’s possible there’s no just one all over you in real everyday living who is ditching the dye, but there are tons of Instagram accounts wherever girls are documenting their gray hair journeys. Adhering to them may well enable you to come to feel a lot less by itself.
This is what came up when I searched “gray hair” on Instagram
Also: there are persons who can appreciate the elegance of gray hair. I have gotten numerous compliments on my grey hair, so rest certain that there are individuals out there who will be supportive of your decision.
Alrighty, readers! Share your grey hair views with us.
P.S. I have not designed an irrevocable determination in opposition to dying my hair. It is probable that at some issue, I will splurge and get the deep auburn pink hair coloration I have normally required to try.
But if I do that, it will not be to deal with my grays it will be since that is a color I want to consider for a bit. 😉
P.P.S. If you decide on to dye your hair, make sure you do not go through this publish as a judgment on your determination. If that is your splurge and you love your explanations for dying your hair, that is a-ok! Your hair, your business. It is all very good. 🙂
